Episode 11
Dad Jokes, Deep Roots & The Things We Inherit
From hot dogs on the streets of NYC to clamming in Bodega Bay, today’s Father's Day special is packed with stories, laughter, and the unexpected lessons we carry forward. Matthew and Nancy open up about their dads—flawed, funny, and formative—and reflect on the legacy of parenting, from tool tips to horse misadventures to the power of being present. Whether you’re a dad, had a dad, miss a dad, or are raising one, this episode is for you. It’s heartfelt, hilarious, and full of real talk.
Takeaways:
- The episode poignantly explores the imperfections inherent in fatherhood, emphasizing that no parent is without flaws.
- Listeners are encouraged to reflect on how their own upbringing has shaped their parenting style and approach to family.
- Unexpected lessons from fathers, such as the importance of returning borrowed tools in better condition, are shared as valuable insights.
- Contrasting experiences of growing up in New York City versus California reveal diverse perspectives on father figures and childhood.
- The significance of being present as a parent is underscored, highlighting the lasting impact of quality time with children.
- The episode humorously notes the joys of grandparenting, suggesting that one of the greatest perks is the ability to return grandchildren after fun times.
Transcript
Hi, I'm Matthew Greger.
Speaker B:And I'm Nancy Greger.
Speaker A:We have this new podcast called we should probably edit this, but we won't.
Speaker A:Hi.
Speaker B:Hello.
Speaker A:So today's episode, we're going to talk about fathers since.
Speaker B:Happy Father's Day.
Speaker B:Yay.
Speaker A:Since today's Father's Day.
Speaker A:Well, when this get.
Speaker A:Goes out, it will no longer be Father's Day.
Speaker B:Doesn't matter.
Speaker B:I know it's Father's Day right now.
Speaker A:That's right, Father's Day.
Speaker B:So let's.
Speaker B:Let's.
Speaker A:I'm a father, really, and a grandfather and a grand.
Speaker B:You're.
Speaker B:You're a gpa.
Speaker B:We're GA and ga.
Speaker B:Why is the TV moving down?
Speaker A:It.
Speaker A:It.
Speaker A:Just Because I moved.
Speaker A:It decided to move.
Speaker A:There we go.
Speaker A:It automatically moves.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:I don't know if I like that, but okay.
Speaker B:So anyways, today is Father's Day.
Speaker A:Yes, it is.
Speaker B:And in celebration of Father's Day, unfortunately, my dad has since passed.
Speaker B:He's been dead for almost 10 years now.
Speaker B:But I.
Speaker B:I will say, though, my dad, he was a flawed human.
Speaker B:And I don't know if every parent is not without son, some flaws.
Speaker B:I mean, I think we certainly have got my share.
Speaker B:We got our share.
Speaker B:But he was very, very much the type of guy who was very encouraging and very supportive.
Speaker B:My dad would always say to me, I could be anything and do anything I want.
Speaker B:Like, there was no limitations whatsoever.
Speaker B:He was very supportive that way.
Speaker B:I wish he was more in line with that for himself.
Speaker B:But when he passed away, I think I learned more about how his upbringing was all about and what really meant for him when he was growing up.
Speaker B:And he had a really, really tough childhood.
Speaker B:And so I think to some extent, he tried to do everything in the opposite of what it was like when he grew up.
Speaker B:But there were certain demons that were very hard for him to overcome, and that wasn't something he was able to do.
Speaker B:Not that it necessarily meant he was.
Speaker B:You know, he kind of thrust it out on me.
Speaker B:He didn't.
Speaker B:It was just the more or less his life, you know, he.
Speaker B:I think he had a lot more demons inside that he didn't know how to deal with.
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And I was too young of a kid to really help him deal with, and even if I could, I don't know if he necessarily would have done anything.
Speaker A:I mean, on that note, it's like family, families, you know, we're not going to necessarily listen to our family.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:Damn it, we don't.
Speaker B:Because, you know, let's face it, we know Nothing.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:But, I mean, even.
Speaker A:Even if you were to say something to him, he may not have heard it from you.
Speaker B:No, because I was probably too close to the situation.
Speaker B:And so therefore, when you're too close to the situation, you don't hear what that other person has to say or do.
Speaker B:But it's Father's Day, and good, bad or indifferent, we didn't come to this world without a mom and a dad.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Whether your father or mother is with you or not, or left you and you didn't even know them or you know them really well and they're your best friend.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:It's a good day.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:My father, growing up, he was around the majority of my upbringing that I remember.
Speaker A:He was always there.
Speaker A:He worked different jobs throughout it.
Speaker A:Early on, from what I remember, he had his own landscaping business in Santa Barbara.
Speaker A:And I always thought that was, you know, great to go to work with him and ride in the back of the pickup truck, too.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:But it had tall sides on it, so it wasn't like, we're gonna fall over.
Speaker A:The main thing is we had to hold on because.
Speaker A:And he didn't drive crazy.
Speaker A:When we were in the.
Speaker A:When brother and I would sit in the back at times and.
Speaker A:And it was a fun experience to go to work with your dad.
Speaker A:And he would teach me different things, too.
Speaker A:When we were landscaping, obviously, I was too young to do a lot of work, but I would help him either bring some tools or help him pick up clippings or something like that.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker A:Stuff from the ground.
Speaker A:I mean, he taught me to really enjoy gardening and planting.
Speaker A:So I think that's the most that I took from my father was the ability to appreciate plants and the landscaping.
Speaker A:And later, when we moved to.
Speaker A:Well, we've always had a garden and a compost.
Speaker B:That's the one thing that probably resonated.
Speaker B:But, you know, the odd thing is that relationships between sons and fathers and daughters and fathers are really, really diverse and different.
Speaker B:You know, my dad wasn't about to take me.
Speaker B:Wasn't about to take me to work, but he really wasn't into gardening anyways.
Speaker B:But we lived in the city.
Speaker B:We lived in New York.
Speaker A:I mean, taking you.
Speaker A:Taking you to work would have been more of a challenge.
Speaker B:Would have been radical.
Speaker B:It would have been a really radical thing.
Speaker B:Even my mother wouldn't take me.
Speaker A:What did you do.
Speaker A:What did you do when you were.
Speaker B:When I was growing up, my f.
Speaker B:Worked in a.
Speaker B:In a.
Speaker B:In a warehouse.
Speaker B:He worked his way up to a supervisory role working for I think the company was called Florsheim Shoes.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker B:So they were in the city in the tri state area.
Speaker B:And all I remember is that there were men's shoes.
Speaker B:Too bad they weren't women's shoes.
Speaker B:They were men's shoes.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker B:So my dad would always come home with some pairs of shoes.
Speaker B:You know, dressy, casual, not sneakers, because that's not what they were about, but, you know, dressy shoes.
Speaker B:So my dad would.
Speaker B:My dad had a lot of shoes.
Speaker A:Maybe you got that from your father, not your mother.
Speaker B:I did.
Speaker A:Jeez, the amount of shoes that you have.
Speaker B:I know.
Speaker B:Wait a second.
Speaker B:Something's coming out that I didn't really realize.
Speaker A:Yes, well, you just learned something now.
Speaker B:Because my dad had a lot of shoes.
Speaker B:A lot of shoes.
Speaker B:But it's because you were.
Speaker B:I just.
Speaker B:He didn't go out and buy them.
Speaker B:It was because he worked for this company and.
Speaker B:And he was always to bring a pair of shoes home.
Speaker B:So he always.
Speaker B:He always had a lot of shoes.
Speaker B:But.
Speaker B:But he was, you know, that kind of worker.
Speaker B:He wasn't.
Speaker B:My dad wasn't handy at all.
Speaker B:There was no handiness about my dad, you know, hammering.
Speaker A:My father was quite handy.
Speaker A:And I remember the biggest thing that he taught me was, especially if we had to borrow a tool or something, I could never understand.
Speaker A:And I said, why are you cleaning this up so much?
Speaker A:Like, if he borrowed a shovel, he would hose it off and sometimes even sharpen the point of the shovel.
Speaker A:Because he said, if you borrow something, you always return it in better condition than how you received it.
Speaker A:And I remember camping, going on trips.
Speaker B:Oh, no.
Speaker A:It was when we moved to Northern California.
Speaker A:Before we moved there, we went camping on the Russian river in the redwood forest.
Speaker A:And those were days that really meant a lot to me, especially as a family coming together, rafting down the Russian river, exploring the redwood forest, fishing.
Speaker A:It was.
Speaker A:It was great.
Speaker A:And then.
Speaker A:Then it seems like we'd always go on vacation somewhere and then we'd end up moving there.
Speaker A:It seemed.
Speaker A:It seemed that way to me.
Speaker A:Wasn't always the case, but that's what happened when we moved to Northern California.
Speaker A:And then when we did.
Speaker A:Going fishing on the ocean and clamming in Bodega Bay.
Speaker B:You do.
Speaker A:And finding blood worms in the.
Speaker A:In Bodega Bay.
Speaker A:Those were.
Speaker A:Those were interesting.
Speaker A:Bringing one home and having the cat play with it.
Speaker B:My dad, that wasn't me.
Speaker B:Well, like I said, we lived in the city, so it wasn't necessarily a lot of nature.
Speaker B:I.
Speaker B:Maybe my dad would have appreciated if he had a boy first because then he could have done some of that camping kind of stuff.
Speaker A:I don't see your father ever camping.
Speaker A:Sorry.
Speaker B:Yeah, no, but my uncle did, his brother did.
Speaker B:And, and I wouldn't say it was camping.
Speaker A:Yeah, I would, I wouldn't call it camping either.
Speaker B:Not in yours, not in your standards.
Speaker B:But you know, in my family, the, so the, my father had three siblings and all of the siblings had children and we all, they all had girls and the first seven of us were girls and we were each one year apart from each other.
Speaker B:So it was probably the girls weren't the best a lot to, to take out camping, but that wasn't, that wasn't what this was.
Speaker B:But I do know that my dad loved the outdoors because one of the, one of the trips, vacations that we went to was in like an upstate New York.
Speaker B:It was a dude ranch.
Speaker B:And I remember my dad saying, we're going to go to a dude ranch.
Speaker B:And I'm like, I don't know what a dude ranch is.
Speaker B:And he says, oh, they're going to have horses.
Speaker B:We're going to go horseback riding.
Speaker B:They're going to have all these other outdoor activities.
Speaker B:And I just looked at him and saying, yeah, I don't know about that.
Speaker B:And so we went to this, this dude ranch and I was able to bring my cousin with me.
Speaker B:And so we were kind of inseparable anyways.
Speaker B:But so my cousin and I went and one of the experiences we had to ride a horse.
Speaker B:Now, I have never, never ridden horse.
Speaker B:As a matter of fact, I don't think I ever saw a horse.
Speaker A:Well, you are the donkey whisperer now.
Speaker B:Oh, yeah.
Speaker B:But I, that's a different story.
Speaker B:But so I remember the, the, the guy came out and he had a mat you with a horse.
Speaker B:And I looked at my dad and I was like, I, I, I, I don't know about this quiz matched you.
Speaker A:On height, which horse?
Speaker B:Or was it personality, your temperament.
Speaker B:So if you've never been on a horse before, you know, he would kind of give you like the docile, the gentle one.
Speaker B:So the guy comes around and he asks us each, even my mom, because my mom did it too, which was amazing.
Speaker A:Yeah, that is amazing for my mother.
Speaker B:So we get up on these horses and I remember Lee was in front of me and I was behind Lee.
Speaker B:And I think my parents were a little bit behind.
Speaker B:And the next thing I know, we're at a certain section and this horse decided it wanted to gallop.
Speaker A:You mean have a mind of its own?
Speaker A:They must have paired you up with the right one.
Speaker A:Yep.
Speaker B:And the next thing I know, we're galloping and we're going faster and faster, and I'm saying to myself, where's my family?
Speaker B:And they were.
Speaker B:And I had no control.
Speaker B:If this horse wanted to go where it was going to go, I was just, I was on your back to follow you wherever you want it.
Speaker B:And I remember the guy yelling, saying, don't panic and don't get worried.
Speaker B:It knows how to get home.
Speaker B:And I'm like.
Speaker B:But I remember my dad was like, my dad.
Speaker A:People couldn't hear that.
Speaker B:I.
Speaker B:I just looked at the guy and I was just like, I don't.
Speaker B:I.
Speaker B:I don't even know where I am.
Speaker B:And so I'm glad that this horse knows how to get home.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker B:And I remember my dad saying, don't get nervous.
Speaker B:And he's yelling this because by this.
Speaker A:Point I'm like, is he yelling in Spanish or no.
Speaker B:No English.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker B:My parents, they only spoke Spanish, so.
Speaker B:So both of my parents weren't born in the United States.
Speaker B:I'm first generation American, and my parents were each born in their receptive countries.
Speaker B:So their first language wasn't English.
Speaker B:It was always Spanish.
Speaker B:And at home with their family, they spoke fluently.
Speaker B:But when I was born, my parents did not want me to have the stigma of having an accent, which I laugh because most people will say, you must be from the York.
Speaker B:And I'd say, yes, I'm from New York because there is an accent to northern people.
Speaker B:But in any case, they didn't want.
Speaker A:You mean to New Yorkers?
Speaker B:To New Yorkers.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker A:Not northern people, but New Yorkers in particular.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker B:But my parents, you may not have.
Speaker A:The Hispanic accent, but you got the New York one.
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And the thing about it is, is that my first language wasn't English because I had lived in Puerto Rico when I was younger, so.
Speaker B:So when I started to talk, I only talked in Spanish.
Speaker B:I didn't talk in English.
Speaker B:But when I came to the United States, back to the United States, my parents were very adamant about not speaking Spanish at home.
Speaker B:They only spoke English.
Speaker B:They would talk Spanish, which made me laugh.
Speaker B:They would talk Spanish if there were other people around, that either, too.
Speaker B:They didn't want it.
Speaker B:They didn't want them to know what they were talking about or family members were back, and in which case their native tongue felt a lot easier to.
Speaker B:To talk.
Speaker B:But I understood, and in many respects, I still could speak Spanish.
Speaker B:But that was the fun thing about my parents were like kind of like a little kooky that way.
Speaker B:Some, some people now you, you, you hear them and they'll say, no, I speak my native tongue at home, but my children speak English when they're outside the door, and they do speak English as well.
Speaker B:But the things that my dad was very, very proud of because he did become an American citizen and he was very proud of becoming an American citizen.
Speaker B:And back then, I don't know if you do that now, but back then you, you had to take a class and you physically go to a class.
Speaker A:You still have to.
Speaker A:I don't know what the classes are like if some are online or in person.
Speaker A:But, but you still have to take a test.
Speaker A:You still have to do it.
Speaker B:You still had to take a test.
Speaker A:Let me put this way.
Speaker A:Most, most immigrants that come here that become citizens, no more than most natural born Americans because they've had to, you know, be tested.
Speaker A:You know, my parents are they, they were born and raised in the States.
Speaker A:You know, when we moved from Northern California to Alabama, I think that was the most, the biggest cultural shock for, for me going from the west coast to the Deep South.
Speaker A:It was my father at that time, we weren't sure, he wasn't sure what he was going to do.
Speaker A:And for a while he had several jobs.
Speaker A:Yeah, he started off working for the city of the small town that we lived in as a garbage man.
Speaker A:For a while we were living in a house that we rented for $25 a month.
Speaker A:It needed work, but we didn't own it, so we didn't do that much work.
Speaker A:But we lived there.
Speaker A:When we lived in Alabama, that was the only place that we lived in besides staying with my aunt and uncle for a while.
Speaker A:But my father started out as a garbage man there and then he became a police officer for a short time.
Speaker A:It's amazing what they would give someone a gun with little to no training.
Speaker A:And I don't think he really didn't like that at all, that job.
Speaker A:And then he went to work for, for the Tennessee Valley Authority.
Speaker A:He was working back in plants and working with, I guess something to do with the heat from the power plants and they were recycling it and working with plants at the time, but he's always been with plants.
Speaker A:And then later he got a job with International Paper Company and we moved to Natchez, Mississippi.
Speaker A:And so he worked for IP for many years.
Speaker B:And all those things had some formidable years for you because you were a teenager.
Speaker A:During that time, my dad was always around, taking us fishing, doing things with Us as we got older, we had different projects.
Speaker A:I remodeled the basement area of the house that we were in and I did most of the work.
Speaker A:But he was always there to give me guidance, especially when it came to using tools and how to use them.
Speaker A:And I always looked up to him on how and how to use them and what to do.
Speaker A:And so what amazed me later when he came to visit, you know, I expected him to take more control over some of the projects we would work on.
Speaker A:But then it shifted where I guided him.
Speaker B:You did all, you did all the, all that stuff.
Speaker B:I know my dad was like, definitely, like I said, he wasn't handy, but he was a lot of.
Speaker B:It was a lot of fun.
Speaker B:And my dad, well, in the beginning, some.
Speaker B:Just some background in the beginning, my parents divorced and they were divorced for a few years of the early part of my life.
Speaker B:And then as they later on, they kind of got back together.
Speaker B:So my dad always.
Speaker B:The time that I would spend with him wanted to be that fun dad wanted to do the fun things.
Speaker B:And so we would go to like ride Playland.
Speaker B:We would go to Coney Island.
Speaker B:Hold please.
Speaker A:I'm just going to put on vibrate.
Speaker A:Keep going, keep talking about Playland.
Speaker A:This will be in the middle of.
Speaker B:So my, My dad would take me to Playland in Coney island and that's what we would do.
Speaker B:We would just go and have some fun events.
Speaker B:My dad loved the hot dogs from.
Speaker B:The hot dogs from the vendors in the street.
Speaker B:He.
Speaker B:He was just that kind of guy.
Speaker B:He.
Speaker B:There was a festival every September, The.
Speaker B:The feast of the Italian Festival in Manhattan.
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And we would go there and boy, the.
Speaker B:Some of the foods.
Speaker B:My dad, what.
Speaker B:I think my dad was a good foodie.
Speaker B:He loved food.
Speaker B:He loved all kinds of food.
Speaker B:My father would eat some really freaky stuff.
Speaker A:Well, my father will eat anything too.
Speaker B:Yeah, My father loved food.
Speaker B:He loved going out, he loved getting food, he loved music.
Speaker B:He loved all kinds of.
Speaker B:He would drive me bananas with the types of musics that he would listen to, from all.
Speaker B:From like Frank Sinatra to the Colombian to mariachis to whatever.
Speaker B:And it was always.
Speaker B:It was non stop.
Speaker B:My.
Speaker B:My man.
Speaker B:I can remember like dad, you know.
Speaker B:You know, because I was growing up, it was a different time period.
Speaker B:But my dad was also the kind of guy who, like I said, he, he.
Speaker B:He took me and my cousins and I think it was myself and my cousins, we went to Atlantic City to see the Bay City Rollers.
Speaker B:And my father took us.
Speaker B:He took all those girls.
Speaker B:He took all those girls.
Speaker B:My dad took me to see Donna Summer in Forest Hills and I remember it was just my dad and I, I, my cousin couldn, and my mother wouldn't allow me to go with just anybody so she made my father go with me and my dad took me to see Donna Summer.
Speaker B:My parents were kind of, they, you know, they didn't have babysitters at that point.
Speaker B:So they probably took me to some questionable things that maybe children should have not attended.
Speaker B:But I, they loved Elvis Presley and I got to see Elvis Presley live, which at the age that I was, I didn't understand the fascination of Elvis Presley with all these old ladies kind of like throwing their underwear up on, on the, on the stage and.
Speaker B:But I remember seeing him, I remember seeing so many other iconic.
Speaker A:I didn't, I didn't have any of those experiences.
Speaker B:Because you live differently.
Speaker B:Well, yeah, I mean you're in the country.
Speaker A:I mean I didn't, I didn't see an R rated movie till I was late in my 20s, teens.
Speaker B:Yeah, I don't know, I, I would probably say I wouldn't have seen an R rated.
Speaker B:But I do remember my dad and mom would take me see some Broadway shows that weren't necessarily kid friendly shows but we did all kinds of stuff.
Speaker B:And when my dad had me on a weekend we would go to children's theater in Manhattan and we would just see all kinds of things.
Speaker B:So there it was very different in, in our growing up between your dad and my dad.
Speaker B:I mean, and towards the latter part when we moved to Florida, I was a teenager when we moved to Florida.
Speaker B:Just turned 13 when we moved to Florida.
Speaker B:And at that point my, my, my father had, was going through, I would say probably a tough time because he had lost his job in New York in the, in the factory, in the warehouse and we went to Florida and we were trying to figure out what they were doing.
Speaker B:So my dad and my mom, my dad did a bread route.
Speaker B:He, my, him and my mom had a paper route which every single, now I'm not joking about this, every single cousin all experienced the paper.
Speaker B:We all had to do it with our, with my mom and dad.
Speaker B:We would get up at 1 o' clock in the morning to go deliver newspapers.
Speaker B:And I could probably tell you every single one of them all experienced it.
Speaker B:So he did a lot of things to try to, you know, he, he did, he had also a lot of jobs.
Speaker B:My father was very, very people friendly.
Speaker B:He could, he was that kind of guy who could sell, you know, ice to the eskimos he really could, because.
Speaker A:That was my personality.
Speaker A:My father was people friendly a lot.
Speaker A:A lot like me when it comes to.
Speaker A:I'm.
Speaker A:I'm not one.
Speaker A:Not outgoing to like, actually embrace people.
Speaker A:But people would always come to me to ask questions.
Speaker A:And the same way, I think I get that from my father because I remember always being around him.
Speaker A:People would ask him questions and ask him where to go, especially when he.
Speaker A:When we ended up in Florida, my brother and I went down there.
Speaker A:I went there first to work for Disney, and then my brother came and he worked for Disney then.
Speaker A:Then my parents moved from Natchez to Orlando and my father became the horticulturist for Winter Park.
Speaker A:And that's probably where he spent the majority of his.
Speaker A:Of his career doing that and working with plants.
Speaker A:And he was out in the public all the time at that point because he was doing the flower baskets on Park Avenue and all the different plantings and stuff.
Speaker A:So I think he was a very, very people person at that point.
Speaker B:My dad was doing cable back when cable started and you had to go door to door to sell cable to people.
Speaker B:That's what my dad did.
Speaker B:He sold cable.
Speaker B:He sold.
Speaker B:They had to go around giving you cable boxes in order to get the cable TV back in the day.
Speaker B:And he did that.
Speaker B:He did that.
Speaker B:He was out.
Speaker B:Like my dad would be out like 7 o' clock in the morning, wouldn't be back till like 7 o' clock at night sometimes.
Speaker B:But he was very much that type of person.
Speaker B:Very, very, very, very people friendly, Very people friendly.
Speaker B:And then towards the end, I remember when it was time for me to get my car, this was funny because I had, I had expressed to my father the type of car that I wanted.
Speaker B:In Florida, you got your license, your, your permit when you were 15.
Speaker A:Permit?
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:You got your permit at 15, you could drive at 16, right?
Speaker B:And I remember had gotten my license and my dad and I went car shopping and we looked for lots of cars and we found the car.
Speaker B: And it was a: Speaker B:It was red with a black interior.
Speaker B:And I was like, dad, this is so cool.
Speaker B:My father's like, I know, this is really cool.
Speaker B:We went home.
Speaker B:We went home and we told my mom we found the car.
Speaker B:We found the car.
Speaker B:And my mother's like, great, let's go.
Speaker B:So we go to go look at the car.
Speaker B:My mother looks at it and she says, oh, no, we are not buying that car.
Speaker B:And I remember I was so upset.
Speaker B:And my father would say, but why this Is a great car.
Speaker B:It's a great little car.
Speaker B:She says she will die in the car.
Speaker B:Her first acts.
Speaker B:She will be dead.
Speaker B:There is no enough metal protection.
Speaker B:So do you know what my first car was that I ended up getting?
Speaker B:A Chrysler Cordova.
Speaker A:Well, that could be a whole nother episode.
Speaker A:We can talk about all of our different cars that we've had, but my mother got.
Speaker B:My mother put her foot down, so I didn't get my mgb, which I always.
Speaker B:I wanted so badly at that time, and said I got this giant boat of a car.
Speaker B:But you know what?
Speaker B:It was the freedom of driving.
Speaker B:And my parents were.
Speaker B:Were very, you know, like, go ahead and, you know, do.
Speaker B:As long as I did chores in the house, I was able to go out with friends on the weekend.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Well, speaking of chores and things, you know, the great thing about being a father is having your own kids, you know, so this is about father's.
Speaker A:This is about Father's Day.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker A:So, you know, what am I proud of as being a father is.
Speaker A:Are my three kids, you know, and.
Speaker A:And seeing how they've grown up and hoping that I've been able to instill some of the values that my father taught it taught me.
Speaker A:And I hope that they take away some of the things that I taught them.
Speaker B:Okay, well, your oldest son is not handy.
Speaker B:No, he has no green thumb.
Speaker A:But my daughter does.
Speaker B:But your daughter does.
Speaker A:She's got the green thumb.
Speaker A:I'm not.
Speaker A:I've got it.
Speaker A:I've got, like, a partially green.
Speaker B:You're a light green.
Speaker B:Yeah, you're a light green.
Speaker A:And then.
Speaker A:Then the youngest is a mechanic.
Speaker A:He's a car.
Speaker A:He's a car guy.
Speaker B:So he is a car.
Speaker A:But my.
Speaker A:But our oldest has.
Speaker A:Has five.
Speaker A:Has four kids of his own.
Speaker B:Don't add five, please, for God's sakes.
Speaker A:But.
Speaker A:But there.
Speaker A:But.
Speaker A:And it's great to see him in the role of being a father.
Speaker A:And I think he really realizes now some of the reasons why we did certain things, because he's now a father having to deal with those same things.
Speaker A:And that's when I think you feel really proud when you see how they're teaching their kids how you're raising them.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:How they're raising their own kids.
Speaker B:However, you will do things differently.
Speaker B:We didn't do the same thing that our parents did.
Speaker A:No.
Speaker A:And they're not doing the same thing that we did.
Speaker A:But there's certain things that they take for Grant.
Speaker A:They take from what we did.
Speaker A:I mean, just around the dinner table.
Speaker A:I Still feel that.
Speaker A:They feel that having dinner together as a family is important.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:There are fundamentals.
Speaker A:And they go around, you know, saying, you know, what happened that day?
Speaker B:Or what were you grateful for?
Speaker A:I mean, I would ask them three things, you know, tell me three things of the day.
Speaker A:And now they.
Speaker A:Now they go and basically just say one thing.
Speaker A:But, you know, it's.
Speaker A:They have a song that goes with it, so.
Speaker B:That's Right.
Speaker B:There is a song.
Speaker A:Yeah, there is a song that goes with it.
Speaker B:Yes, yes, yes.
Speaker B:There's some clapping involved.
Speaker B:Yes, I remember that.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker A:But they make it fun.
Speaker A:They do, you know, and I think that's.
Speaker A:I think that's important, you know, with it.
Speaker B:And now you got grandchildren, so there's a different.
Speaker B:Totally different atmosphere.
Speaker B:Fear.
Speaker B:When you have grandchildren.
Speaker B:Because the good part about being a grandma or grandpa is you can have fun.
Speaker B:You don't necessarily have to be, like, authoritative or very.
Speaker A:Sometimes you wish you could be a little more authoritative, but, you know, sometimes.
Speaker A:But most of the time it's fun and.
Speaker A:And then you get to.
Speaker A:You get.
Speaker A:You get to give them back.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:But you get to do things with them that, that, that.
Speaker A:It's just.
Speaker A:It's just different.
Speaker B:It is different.
Speaker A:It is.
Speaker B:It's a different thing.
Speaker A:And hopefully you can teach them something too, as.
Speaker A:As a grandfather or grandmother that.
Speaker A:That they'll remember you by.
Speaker B:They probably.
Speaker B:I'm sure when they get older and they start to have thoughts about us, they'll probably me a few things that might have resonated with them.
Speaker B:Really?
Speaker B:Well, sure.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker B:But this being a grandparent, that's your other aspect of Father's Day, is that you have grandchildren and it is fun to have grandchildren.
Speaker B:It's a lot of fun.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Well, on that note, we should probably edit this, but, boy, do we.
Speaker B:There was a few things we should.
Speaker A:Probably have, but we should probably edit.
Speaker B:This, but we won't.
Speaker A:No.
Speaker A:So until next time, I'm Matthew.
Speaker B:I'm Nancy.
Speaker A:Have a great day.
Speaker B:Have a great day.
Speaker A:And happy Father's Day to all those fathers out there.
Speaker B:Dads.
Speaker A:Y.
Speaker A:Bye.
Speaker B:Bye.
