Episode 6
Episode 6 - Things That Drive Us Crazy (And Why We Should Just Let It Go, Or Not)
After 37 years of marriage, you learn to let some things go… and passive-aggressively bring up the rest on a podcast. In this episode, Nancy and Matthew take a hilarious tour through the land of pet peeves, exploring everyday irritations with humor, love, and just the right amount of sarcasm. Whether it’s red lights that refuse to sync, the mysterious male/female plumbing parts aisle, or the eternal “what’s for dinner?” standoff, they find a way to laugh through it—and maybe even learn something in the process. We all just need to let go of what really doesn’t matter. It’s a candid, funny, and all-too-relatable take on navigating life’s small irritations while staying connected, curious, and maybe even a little more chill.
Takeaways:
- After 37 years of marriage, we have learned the importance of letting go of trivial irritations and focusing on what truly matters in our relationship.
- In this episode, we humorously explore our pet peeves, ranging from traffic signals to the challenges of meal planning, highlighting the everyday frustrations many couples face.
- We discuss how communication plays a vital role in mitigating annoyances, emphasizing the need for patience and understanding between partners.
- The episode illustrates that while certain habits may irritate us, it's essential to approach these issues with love and humor, allowing for growth in our relationship.
- Through candid conversations, we reflect on how our perspectives on annoyances have evolved over time, suggesting that maturity often leads to greater tolerance.
- Ultimately, we conclude that shared laughter and open dialogue about our pet peeves can strengthen our connection, reminding us that we are in this together.
Transcript
Hi, I'm Matthew Greger.
Speaker B:And I'm Nancy Greger.
Speaker A:We have this new podcast called we should probably edit this, but we won't, so we can talk about things that bug us.
Speaker B:Okay, sure.
Speaker B:Let's talk about things that bug us.
Speaker A:Anyways.
Speaker A:Hi.
Speaker B:Hi.
Speaker B:So, on today's topic, we're gonna talk.
Speaker A:About things that are pet peeves that drive us a little crazy.
Speaker A:Maybe about each other, maybe about who knows what.
Speaker A:Let's take it and see where it goes.
Speaker A:So name something that bugs you.
Speaker B:Name something that bugs me.
Speaker A:All right, well, you're thinking, I'll go.
Speaker B:Go.
Speaker A:Traffic patterns.
Speaker A:It's not about.
Speaker A:Well, we always have traffic, but do the people that actually set the signals and the timing up drive in those areas?
Speaker A:I often wonder.
Speaker A:And.
Speaker A:And the triggers.
Speaker A:I don't know if many of you know, but there's.
Speaker A:Mostly there's triggers that.
Speaker A:That let you let the signal system know that there's a car there.
Speaker A:Sometimes.
Speaker A:Sometimes they work, sometimes they don't.
Speaker A:But it's just like.
Speaker A:Especially if you're.
Speaker A:If you're in a row of traffic lights, you would think that after you pass the first one in green, the others would turn green along the way so that you can actually make forward progress.
Speaker A:But no, you get stuck and you get stopped in the next one.
Speaker A:So that's something that really just drives me, you know?
Speaker B:It's funny, though, in Manhattan, the lights are programmed that way.
Speaker A:They used to be.
Speaker A:I don't know if they still are.
Speaker B:I don't know.
Speaker B:We've left the city.
Speaker A:I know.
Speaker A:You can actually go down.
Speaker A:Go down an avenue, or you can go.
Speaker B:You can actually make it from uptown to downtown.
Speaker B:Fairly good.
Speaker B:I mean, you.
Speaker B:You would have had issues once in a while, but at least the lights were like one right after the other.
Speaker B:They turned.
Speaker B:I guess that's a sign New Yorkers want to keep moving forward.
Speaker B:They want to have to stop.
Speaker A:I don't know.
Speaker A:There's a lot of stop in there, too.
Speaker B:If you go off.
Speaker A:Well, a lot of traffic.
Speaker B:If you're trying to go from the east side to the west side, but north to south, I think it's pretty.
Speaker B:It was pretty.
Speaker A:Also depends what time of day.
Speaker B:True, it does.
Speaker B:It does depend on the time of day.
Speaker B:But I don't.
Speaker B:Those things bother you.
Speaker B:I don't see any interest in that whatsoever.
Speaker A:It's just that, you know, you think you're improving the traffic flow, and sometimes the stop sign used to work a lot better than that traffic light.
Speaker B:No, your favorite is when they changed the cross stoplight.
Speaker B:And they say do not turn on right.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Do not turn on red.
Speaker A:Can't no right turn on red.
Speaker A:And you wonder, hello, you're looking around like, why can't I turn?
Speaker A:There's no one else there.
Speaker A:Or they put the, they put the, they put the red arrow on the left hand turn when you could.
Speaker A:If they would just make that like a green light too, that you could pause or you caution light that you could turn.
Speaker A:Because a lot of times that traffic coming towards you, it's not there anymore.
Speaker A:But yet you got a red light that you can't turn.
Speaker A:A red arrow.
Speaker B:It all depends on what it is.
Speaker B:And to be honest about it, when you're in outside scenarios where it's, it's things you really can't control or you can't really say anything about, you just.
Speaker A:Gotta, I understand you gotta go with it, but at the same time you wonder who's planning these things.
Speaker A:I mean, really just drive it for a little while.
Speaker A:Drive that pattern, drive that that way and, and just take a good look at it.
Speaker A:That's all.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker A:All right.
Speaker A:That's one thing that's on me.
Speaker A:So why give you a moment to talk?
Speaker B:I wanted to think about it.
Speaker B:I, I probably have to say that the pet peeve that, that you really make me kooky crazy on is sometimes your insistence on certain things and.
Speaker A:Oh, so now we're moving to, to each other.
Speaker B:You asked us for an example.
Speaker B:You didn't say I had to pick something random.
Speaker B:You just said an example.
Speaker B:So that's an example for me.
Speaker B:It was kind of like.
Speaker B:What was, what was something that just recently happened that I can't remember.
Speaker B:But it could be something like.
Speaker A:You mean, you mean like I, I keep nagging you about doing you to try something.
Speaker A:How about like, like, yeah, like especially something around food.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:You should try matcha.
Speaker B:I don't like matcha.
Speaker B:No, no, you should try it.
Speaker B:No, this one's good.
Speaker B:This one tastes like dirt.
Speaker B:No, you really.
Speaker B:Every matcha is different.
Speaker A:No, but how about sushi?
Speaker A:I still don't understand why you, you, you'll, you'll eat the cooked sushi and you actually like it, but you won't try the other.
Speaker B:I don't want anything raw.
Speaker B:I don't understand why that is.
Speaker B:But what gets me more pet peeved about is what, what do I always say to you?
Speaker B:I'm a grown human being.
Speaker A:I know you can make your, you can make your own decisions.
Speaker B:I can make my own decisions on that.
Speaker B:I don't need coaching from.
Speaker B:And I don't need.
Speaker B:I try to tell me I should need to try.
Speaker A:I'm not.
Speaker A:I'm not coaching you.
Speaker A:I just want you.
Speaker B:I'm not going to.
Speaker A:I just want you to try something.
Speaker B:I'm not missing out on anything.
Speaker B:I'm okay.
Speaker A:But I feel you are.
Speaker B:You can do it all by yourself and that's perfectly fine.
Speaker B:I don't make you do things you don't want to do.
Speaker A:You suggest things to me once in a while.
Speaker B:What kind of suggestions would I have given you in the past?
Speaker B:See, it's amazing how I can remember things.
Speaker B:You.
Speaker A:Yeah, because I guess you.
Speaker A:Maybe you hold that longer than I do.
Speaker A:I just let it go.
Speaker B:No, you just bring up more often than I would.
Speaker B:That's the difference.
Speaker B:Who brings up stuff more often?
Speaker A:Only.
Speaker A:Only when I think it might benefit you.
Speaker B:But who are you to say it's going to benefit?
Speaker A:I know I have to be patient and just hit you a different way.
Speaker B:Patient.
Speaker B:You just need to let it go and move on.
Speaker A:Unless I really think it's beneficial.
Speaker B:No, you just need to let it go.
Speaker B:Sometimes people have to come around to their own for.
Speaker B:Hey, look, look.
Speaker A:I guess I'm not letting it go now, am I?
Speaker B:Dog with a bone.
Speaker B:Like a dog with a bone.
Speaker B:Certain things just, all right, will come around naturally.
Speaker B:They don't need to be egged on and pushed on.
Speaker B:And that's true about a lot of things.
Speaker B:A lot of relationships and everything else.
Speaker B:We want what we want and we expect everybody else to be right there.
Speaker A:You mean to be everybody.
Speaker A:To be responsible how to think how we think?
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:Because you feel that everything should be done in a certain way and when they're not in a certain way.
Speaker A:Now, why are you referring.
Speaker A:Me?
Speaker B:Yeah, you.
Speaker A:And you don't.
Speaker A:You don't feel that way?
Speaker B:No.
Speaker B:Because I'm not the type of person that has to have three weeks advance notice about a situation that's going to occur.
Speaker B:You need ample time to wrap yourself around anything new where the rest process could just jump at it.
Speaker B:You've got to contemplate, you've got to think.
Speaker B:You've got to do all this kind of stuff about it.
Speaker B:You've got to mull it over.
Speaker B:It's.
Speaker A:I'm getting.
Speaker A:I'm getting better.
Speaker B:No, you're not.
Speaker B:You think you are, but you're really not.
Speaker B:It's not.
Speaker B:It's fundamentally not who you're not, what you're about.
Speaker B:In order for us to introduce certain things that's why when we always say, oh, we're going to go away and we're going to go here, we're going to go there, we don't.
Speaker B:Because unless one of us actually writes it down and plans it out, it won't happen.
Speaker B:It'll just be an idea, but it won't be something we actually act upon.
Speaker B:It's like, we had a good intent, but we're not moving forward with it.
Speaker B:That's.
Speaker A:And that's my fault.
Speaker B:No, I think sometimes it could be me, too, because quite frankly, if I wanted to do something bad enough, I don't need your permission to do it.
Speaker B:I just go ahead and say, hey, this is what we're doing.
Speaker A:That's okay.
Speaker A:You know, sometimes I think that's okay, you know, that one of us makes the decision.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Like when you say, what do you want for dinner?
Speaker B:And I say, I don't know.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:That's a big one, isn't it?
Speaker B:That is a.
Speaker A:That is.
Speaker A:That.
Speaker A:That's actually a pet peeve of mine.
Speaker B:That is a pet peeve of yours.
Speaker B:Because every night after we finish having dinner, it's like, what do you want tomorrow?
Speaker B:I'm like, we've tried, but we've tried.
Speaker A:Planning before and that works.
Speaker B:It worked to a certain point.
Speaker A:It works until one of us doesn't want to plan it anymore.
Speaker B:No, let's rephrase that.
Speaker B:It works until one of us doesn't want to cook it any longer.
Speaker A:No, that's not true.
Speaker B:Then the other guy has to.
Speaker A:Oh, that's.
Speaker A:No, we're talking about planning.
Speaker A:We're not talking about preparing.
Speaker B:No, but that falls into.
Speaker B:When you don't want to do something, you can plan it all.
Speaker B:But if all the planning, if the execution of the plan is reliant upon one person to do it.
Speaker A:It'S not.
Speaker A:I try to make it a joint effort.
Speaker A:I'll do the barbecue.
Speaker B:We are galley kitchen.
Speaker B:There's no joint effort in a galley kitchen.
Speaker B:If for those of you who have small kitchens or galley kitchen.
Speaker B:You understand what I mean by galley kitchen?
Speaker B:You literally have maybe 36 inch space between two counters.
Speaker B:You go in, you go out, you go in, you go out.
Speaker A:But we have a long aisle.
Speaker A:I can work on one end and not bother you.
Speaker B:Never seems to happen that way.
Speaker A:Only because I need the sink and you're by the sink.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:Or I need the stove and you're by the stove.
Speaker B:There we go.
Speaker B:So what ends up happening is the one person who does the primary cooking, which is myself, ends up at coming to a point where I'm like, no, I don't want to cook.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker A:But if we.
Speaker B:Doesn't matter what's on the scale, if.
Speaker A:We planned things better, we.
Speaker A:We put our meals back on a calendar or we decide this is what we're having this week, and we've had very good success with that in the past where we've planned it out.
Speaker A:Just.
Speaker A:Why don't we stick to that?
Speaker A:Why don't we stick to doing that?
Speaker A:It helps us with our grocery shopping.
Speaker B:Because I told you why.
Speaker B:We don't know.
Speaker A:But listen, even when we were doing that, there were times that I would cook.
Speaker B:I'm glad you think that.
Speaker B:That you.
Speaker B:You pick up the slab, but you.
Speaker A:Don'T pick up the slab.
Speaker B:Pick up the slab, pick up the slack.
Speaker B:Whatever the freaking analogy of it all is.
Speaker B:You don't.
Speaker A:Sometimes you don't let me.
Speaker A:That's a pet peeve of mine.
Speaker A:Because you don't want.
Speaker A:You don't want.
Speaker A:You don't.
Speaker A:Either you don't like the way that I cook it, or you don't want what I'm gonna cook.
Speaker B:Okay, I'm gonna say, in the past, that might have been true, but I.
Speaker A:Would say to you, oh, now it's not.
Speaker B:No, I.
Speaker B:I would.
Speaker B:What have I said?
Speaker B:I've learned.
Speaker B:Have to learn to just let things go.
Speaker B:And however you make it, you make it.
Speaker B:However long it takes you to prepare, it takes you.
Speaker A:Oh, so there's another one.
Speaker A:I take too long.
Speaker B:Oh, you take too long about anything.
Speaker B:Or.
Speaker B:Or my.
Speaker B:My favorite is this should only take us a half a day.
Speaker B:And we're not cooking now.
Speaker B:No, we're talking about just everything in.
Speaker A:General, because I can get something done in less than half a day when it starts, when it's about to.
Speaker A:Cooking.
Speaker A:Unless I'm doing a smoked brisket or barbecue.
Speaker B:But we can move on from that topic.
Speaker B:It's more or less your planning.
Speaker B:It's the.
Speaker B:The idea in your head of how long something will actually take.
Speaker B:Now, theoretically, it shouldn't really take that long.
Speaker B:However, there's so much thought that you put into something.
Speaker B:Once again, we get pulled back into the weeds of it all, rather than, let's just pull the weeds out.
Speaker A:Now you're talking about.
Speaker A:Now you're talking about me overthinking things.
Speaker A:So there's another pet peeve.
Speaker A:Overthink things.
Speaker B:Overthink it.
Speaker B:Beat it to the.
Speaker B:To death.
Speaker B:And I'm just standing there saying, my God, man, just get the damn paintbrush and start painting.
Speaker B:Why Are we looking hard?
Speaker A:I'm not looking at it.
Speaker A:Maybe I'm preparing it now.
Speaker A:I'm taping the edges up.
Speaker A:All right.
Speaker A:So when we're done painting, who looks like what?
Speaker B:It doesn't matter how I look.
Speaker B:I can have paint on the top all over me.
Speaker A:Do I have any paint on me?
Speaker B:Oh, sometimes it's a little bit, but not as much as me.
Speaker B:I would admit that.
Speaker B:But who gets.
Speaker B:Primarily.
Speaker B:Who gets it mostly done?
Speaker A:You're.
Speaker A:You're.
Speaker A:I'm going for it.
Speaker A:I'm just going in.
Speaker A:I'm diving in.
Speaker A:I'm gonna do it.
Speaker B:Gotta get it done.
Speaker A:Not worried about how messy I make it.
Speaker A:I'm just gonna get it done.
Speaker B:Nope, not worried about how messy I'm going to be at the.
Speaker A:I have to clean up the edges, but that's fine.
Speaker B:I leave that for you.
Speaker B:Why?
Speaker B:Because while I've done the entire room, you're still working on one side of an edge.
Speaker B:Yeah, because that's usually how.
Speaker B:What usually happens with us, you know, you.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker B:You bring up the back when you bring.
Speaker A:I clean up the mess.
Speaker B:You clean.
Speaker B:No, you didn't really clean up that much of a mess.
Speaker A:But in the past I have.
Speaker A:But.
Speaker A:But you could.
Speaker B:You could be more.
Speaker A:But that's normally what I do if I'm with.
Speaker A:In the.
Speaker A:In the.
Speaker A:Going back to the cooking side.
Speaker A:I'll clean up the mess afterwards.
Speaker A:If you don't clean up along the way.
Speaker B:Well, that's the deal, though.
Speaker B:If one of us cooks, the other one has to clean up, Right?
Speaker B:So if I cook, you got to do the cleanup.
Speaker A:The chief dishwasher.
Speaker B:You what?
Speaker B:Load them into the dishwasher.
Speaker B:Oh, that's okay.
Speaker A:Well, there are some stuff that I want.
Speaker B:There's some pots and pans.
Speaker B:Yes, you will clean.
Speaker B:Yes, yes, yes, I will.
Speaker A:But you don't like to barbecue.
Speaker B:No, because I don't want to go outside.
Speaker B:I.
Speaker B:I don't understand the fascination.
Speaker B:I like it.
Speaker B:I do.
Speaker B:I like.
Speaker B:Certain.
Speaker A:That's good.
Speaker A:Then I can contribute in some way.
Speaker B:That's true.
Speaker B:That is your major contribution.
Speaker B:If I can just get you to do it that all the time.
Speaker B:Or if everything we hold on to the barbecue, we would be that much.
Speaker A:So moving on to the.
Speaker A:To pet peeve of yours.
Speaker A:That drives me nuts.
Speaker A:Sometimes you just don't let me talk.
Speaker B:No, because it takes too long for.
Speaker A:You see, there we go.
Speaker A:But you have to be patient with me a little bit.
Speaker A:Sometimes I actually have a point to get across.
Speaker A:Or I want to actually.
Speaker A:I want to I want to, I want to contribute to it, but I don't move fast enough for you or.
Speaker A:I'm not saying that you've got to.
Speaker B:Learn how to read the room.
Speaker B:And if you're having a conversation with somebody and it's taking you.
Speaker A:There we go.
Speaker A:There we go.
Speaker B:You're not reading the room and, and.
Speaker A:You know, or you're not reading the room.
Speaker A:You're not reading the room when, you know, when, when you need to be quiet, but you need to, like, bring it down just a notch.
Speaker A:Maybe sometimes, sometimes I have to remind you of the time just because you keep going on and on and on and on.
Speaker A:Now, look, that's not necessarily a pet peeve of mine, but I just want you just to recognize it once in a while that there's maybe other people that want to have a conversation too, or to chime in and just to, just to be aware of that so that you can pause and let them chime in.
Speaker B:I think I'm getting better at it.
Speaker B:I, I think I'm getting better at it.
Speaker B:I don't think I'm necessarily jumping in all the time, but when it comes to you, I probably will because we live together.
Speaker A:You have something more to say than I do.
Speaker B:I have something.
Speaker B:I say it in a different way.
Speaker A:Okay, well, that's all.
Speaker A:Let me say it my way, too, once in a while.
Speaker A:That's all I'm asking.
Speaker B:Eventually you do get around to it.
Speaker A:It's just eventually, eventually I might have to come back around in a couple times, a couple circles to get to it.
Speaker B:Get to it.
Speaker B:And, and I think friends know that about us is the difference between the two of us.
Speaker B:But I think you're, I, I, I do try to make sure that I can listen to what people are having to say rather than necessarily jump in with comments.
Speaker B:I could I do that better with strangers?
Speaker B:I don't do that well with you, but that's only because I think to some.
Speaker A:But even with strangers, though, you sometimes.
Speaker B:Carry on a bit, but carry on is not interruptions.
Speaker B:Let's clear that.
Speaker A:All right, well, then let's see how we can pull back.
Speaker B:Me extending my time to talk is, is not the same thing as not giving somebody else the same platform to talk and listen.
Speaker B:Rephrase that, buddy, because that's not true.
Speaker B:That's not a true thing.
Speaker A:I don't, but I, I have to say, I, I enjoy your stories.
Speaker A:I enjoy your conversations.
Speaker A:But what, just once in a while it just like, just learn to read.
Speaker A:And sometimes I have to like give you that look or I have to point it out or I have to nudge you something.
Speaker A:Yeah, I'm sure that bugs you too.
Speaker B:It does, but I let it go.
Speaker A:Because it's also a gentle reminder.
Speaker B:It's.
Speaker B:It is a gentle reminder that says, hey, it's time for you to wrap it up.
Speaker A:Yep.
Speaker B:Because somebody else wants to have a conversation.
Speaker A:Okay, your turn.
Speaker A:What else?
Speaker B:What else?
Speaker A:Yeah, what?
Speaker A:What?
Speaker A:Is there anything else that drives you crazy?
Speaker A:It doesn't have to be me all the time.
Speaker B:You know, I just.
Speaker B:I think in general, you know, sometimes just being outside or dealing with people can.
Speaker B:There are certain things that probably just, like, you wish they would just do things better or.
Speaker A:What do you mean?
Speaker B:I don't know.
Speaker B:Sometimes people don't have the same care.
Speaker B:Oh, doing something.
Speaker A:Okay, so it could.
Speaker A:It could be the store clerk or it could be someone there that could just maybe care about what they do.
Speaker B:I mean, just take an interest and I mean, you know, listen, you.
Speaker B:You can make lemonade from lemons, or you can sit and complain that the.
Speaker B:That the lemons are going bad.
Speaker B:You know what?
Speaker B:I'm.
Speaker B:Stop looking at the lemons going bad and figure out, well, what can you do to repurpose it?
Speaker B:What else can.
Speaker B:You know?
Speaker A:Well, what.
Speaker A:I mean, here we go.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker A:See, it's.
Speaker A:I gotta process this, and I can't get to the thought right away, but.
Speaker A:Yeah, it's just maybe taking a little bit more initiative and caring about what you're doing.
Speaker A:You know what's really satisfying, though, is when you do run across someone that does.
Speaker A:Whether it's.
Speaker A:Whether it's.
Speaker A:Someone waiting on you in a restaurant or it's.
Speaker A:Someone that's checking you out or someone that's doing yard work in your yard or.
Speaker A:Or you run across that actually does care.
Speaker B:You know, it makes a big difference.
Speaker A:Makes a huge difference.
Speaker B:It makes a big difference.
Speaker B:I mean, we've all been to restaurants where the one waiter is very attentive, very much engaging, you know, trying to make sure that your experience there is great.
Speaker B:And then you have the other waiter who's just trying to get through the day.
Speaker A:I can remember two of those exact incident incidences when we were.
Speaker B:And it makes.
Speaker A:When we were.
Speaker A:When we were traveling.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:You know, the.
Speaker A:The one in.
Speaker A:In Austin who dropped the drinks all over the people across the way, all over the actual patron in the restaurant there, he was serving, and he doused him with his drink and then broke the glass too.
Speaker A:It's like he.
Speaker A:He had an opportunity to redeem himself, but yet he kind of hid and like, seemed like he was really off after that, completely off after that.
Speaker A:And I mean, the guy wasn't happy about it at all, for sure, and hopefully got his meal comped out of it.
Speaker A:But even so, I didn't really see him apologizing or saying, what can I do for you?
Speaker A:How can I help you?
Speaker A:What can.
Speaker A:What can we do?
Speaker A:And then.
Speaker A:Then another time when we were in Miami with that one waitress at the Cuban restaurant, I mean, there was a lot of us.
Speaker A:She.
Speaker A:She was.
Speaker A:She was just.
Speaker B:She was fantastic on.
Speaker B:She was right on the money.
Speaker B:She was very engaging.
Speaker B:She was.
Speaker B:She worked the crowd or.
Speaker B:Or the table, and she was able to really get us to.
Speaker B:To, you know, not only feel the participation amongst the.
Speaker B:The.
Speaker B:The group on the table, but really was very, very engaging and very, very thoughtful as to what we were, what we were there for.
Speaker B:And that.
Speaker B:That made it a much, much better.
Speaker A:Even made it a great experience.
Speaker A:It really did.
Speaker B:The food could have been so, so, so, so.
Speaker B:And I don't think at the end of the day that we sat back and said, the food was great.
Speaker B:The food was.
Speaker A:No, but it was actually really good food, though.
Speaker B:It was good.
Speaker B:It was good.
Speaker B:But, you know, it was kind of like that moment where you meet somebody else.
Speaker A:She helped make that moment.
Speaker A:And then.
Speaker A:And then the other one in Austin and at the steakhouse.
Speaker A:I mean, I think that waitress would have liked to have pulled up a chair with us.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:And had dinner with us at that time.
Speaker B:I mean, that to me, was a little bit over the edge.
Speaker B:Yeah, to some extent.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Because we were.
Speaker B:Again, we were a group.
Speaker B:We knew who we were, and we were there as a group because we wanted to kind of catch up amongst ourselves, so to kind of offer.
Speaker A:We were kind of solving her.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:At the time.
Speaker B:Kind of offer a therapeutic session with someone or an experience with someone.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:I don't think either one of us were.
Speaker A:But that's.
Speaker A:That's.
Speaker A:That's okay.
Speaker A:It's kind of makes the experiences different.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:But.
Speaker B:But that was, you know.
Speaker B:Yeah, that wasn't too.
Speaker B:Too bad.
Speaker B:But yeah, those kind of things.
Speaker B:I think we.
Speaker A:We all right now.
Speaker A:Am I boring you?
Speaker A:No.
Speaker B:Sometimes we have to yawn.
Speaker B:That's.
Speaker A:Well, I have to sneeze.
Speaker B:God bless you.
Speaker B:That's because.
Speaker B:What's going on right now?
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Everything's a little bit green outside and not.
Speaker A:Not green from just the leaves, but the whole atmosphere is kind of green right now.
Speaker B:A lot of pollen.
Speaker B:So it's that time of the year when you, you know, you kind of get.
Speaker A:Eyes are itchy.
Speaker B:Yeah, you're.
Speaker B:You're the one who's having that problem.
Speaker B:I'm not.
Speaker B:I'm not.
Speaker A:A little damp today, so it's not so bad.
Speaker A:I know riding the bike of the day, used to saw a cloud of.
Speaker A:Of green dust coming across there.
Speaker B:It's not a good thing.
Speaker B:No, not a good thing.
Speaker B:Not a good thing.
Speaker A:All right, so.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker A:Well, back to things that bug us.
Speaker A:You know, I think as we get older, you're gonna be clicking some stuff there.
Speaker B:Don't worry.
Speaker A:I mean, I think.
Speaker A:I think things that bug us is.
Speaker A:Yeah, now I'm stuck.
Speaker B:Things that bug us.
Speaker B:I.
Speaker B:I don't want to use the word bug us because I like to move away from.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Because I don't want to be a negative episode, that's for sure.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:So the question is, what can.
Speaker A:How can we contribute to things that we see that could bug us?
Speaker A:How can we turn that around and make something else out of it?
Speaker A:Whether it's the.
Speaker A:The waiter that's not serving us the right way, the waitress or experience in traffic when the lights aren't.
Speaker A:Aren't turning the way we want to.
Speaker B:Traffic part, you can't do anything about.
Speaker A:Correct.
Speaker B:It is what it is, and you just have to anticipate it.
Speaker B:The only way you can get around that is if you plan your life accordingly.
Speaker B:In other words, you plan your route.
Speaker B:So if you know you're going somewhere and you know that inevitably there's going to be spots that are going to have to have traffic, either you have to leave at a certain time or you just embrace that's going to be.
Speaker A:There's always traffic.
Speaker B:There's always traffic.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:The only thing that you could do is you could.
Speaker A:You could complain to the city or just.
Speaker A:Or not maybe complain.
Speaker A:But to say, hey, you know, wouldn't it be a great idea if you guys actually just followed the traffic pattern?
Speaker B:And how many times have you done that?
Speaker B:Correct.
Speaker A:I don't know.
Speaker A:I don't know what it would do either.
Speaker B:So that.
Speaker B:That's the key.
Speaker B:That's the key.
Speaker B:If you find something that's, you know, irritating you to some extent, then you have to say something about it because we.
Speaker B:You can't expect people to read your minds.
Speaker B:You can't expect people to know.
Speaker A:Would you do that.
Speaker A:Would you do that with the waitress or a waiter?
Speaker A:Would you say something?
Speaker B:I think if I.
Speaker B:If I recognize that somebody was in somewhat of a distress and wasn't necessarily, you know, coming up.
Speaker B:I think visual contact with them, like stopping and looking them right in their face, like eye to eye contact, will kind of help you decipher and let that person know, hey, I see you, versus keeping your head down and, you know, focusing on what it is you want to eat on the menu.
Speaker B:Making that, that connection, making that eye to eye contact with them.
Speaker B:I think that's important and I think that can help maybe turn the table a little bit.
Speaker B:Maybe not completely, but it could also help.
Speaker A:How about like the store clerk or the, the person that's working in the store that's, that's, you know, on their, on their cell phone and isn't paying attention to you?
Speaker A:I mean, that's something that, that's something that I see often.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:On there, you know, sometimes you want to just look, right.
Speaker A:You want to, you want to browse, you want to look depending upon what you're shopping for and where you're at.
Speaker A:But other times you would at least like to be acknowledged, like, can I help you?
Speaker A:Let me know if you need something.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:You know, otherwise you see some that are just completely disengaged with it.
Speaker A:I mean, how about the, how about the restaurant that we were at yesterday that we stopped at?
Speaker A:I just seemed very chaotic and no rhyme or reason for the length of time that it took to get the food.
Speaker A:And that was just a pickup place.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:You know, not much you can do about that because you've got to figure out that management has to recognize that there's a problem with that.
Speaker B:I mean, nowadays what people do is they'll go on Yelp or they'll go on, on some random area where they can post their.
Speaker A:Is it amazing how many people, they don't post good reviews?
Speaker A:They only post the time that they get.
Speaker B:Nah, they'll post both.
Speaker B:They post both.
Speaker B:I mean, how many times have you gone through, you're going to go order something on Amazon and you look at the reviews.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:And you read the reviews.
Speaker B:And the funny thing is, is that you can, you can, you can sort the reviews.
Speaker B:So you can sort the reviews by the most recent.
Speaker B:You can sort the reviews by the one that gave the worst rating.
Speaker B:And so it's funny how, how you do that.
Speaker B:I, I tend to look at, okay, what's the most recent?
Speaker B:Because if the recent was literally three years ago, then I'm going to say to you, it's not going to hold much marriage.
Speaker B:Mary.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:I'm not really going to worry about.
Speaker A:I mean, it's, I Mean, that's just one challenge alone.
Speaker A:When you're looking for something these days, there's like 500 variations of it.
Speaker A:How do you even figure out what to order?
Speaker A:You know, you think sometimes you're going for this particular item that you're looking for.
Speaker A:That shouldn't be too hard to figure out.
Speaker A:And then you end up with, you know, a hundred different ones there, and now you're stuck figuring out, okay, which one should I buy?
Speaker A:And then, yeah, there's so many different.
Speaker B:Amazon is the one that kind of does that.
Speaker A:Even when you go into a store.
Speaker A:Like, how many different spatulas do you need?
Speaker A:Or different types.
Speaker A:Okay, I mean, maybe that's not a good example for me, but it's.
Speaker A:It's like you go into something and you think that you just need this one thing.
Speaker A:How.
Speaker A:How hard is it going to be to actually find that one thing?
Speaker A:Especially even going to, like, Home Depot or Lowe's.
Speaker B:And you don't make me go to Home Depot.
Speaker B:Lowe's.
Speaker B:You want to talk about the other pet peeve?
Speaker B:I don't like going into Home Depot with you or Lowe's, either one of those stores.
Speaker A:Especially if I have to go get electrical.
Speaker A:Electrical or plumbing part.
Speaker B:Oh, my God.
Speaker B:I never understood what that actually meant.
Speaker B:Well, you have to find.
Speaker B:We found the boy part, we got to find the girl part.
Speaker B:I'm like, what, the freak female or the male?
Speaker B:And yeah, I just.
Speaker B:It.
Speaker B:It's a mind bottling thing comes out.
Speaker A:Or it goes in.
Speaker B:I just don't understand that whole.
Speaker B:I will sit there and just literally waiting in the aisle for you to make a decision on what it is we need to get.
Speaker A:And that's the, that's the challenge at times.
Speaker A:There's so many different ways.
Speaker A:Ways to do something.
Speaker A:And.
Speaker A:And then you got to figure out, okay, what's the right way to do it.
Speaker B:Hence why I don't like going to Home Depot.
Speaker A:Yeah, I know, I know.
Speaker A:And part of it's.
Speaker A:Part of it's the amateur and as home improvement people who don't have.
Speaker A:Yeah, what?
Speaker A:What?
Speaker A:You don't know?
Speaker A:Yeah, no, I don't know.
Speaker A:And I'm trying to figure it out while I'm looking and browsing through the pieces.
Speaker A:How am I going to do this?
Speaker B:How are you going to fix it?
Speaker A:How am I going to fix it?
Speaker A:Or how am I going to create it or what I'm going to do?
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Now this is.
Speaker B:This is true.
Speaker B:This is.
Speaker B:This is.
Speaker B:But I get.
Speaker B:But when that happens, my thing is don't go with you, you got to.
Speaker A:Go by yourself sometimes.
Speaker A:I need you just to say, what do you think about this?
Speaker A:And it's not for your purpose because you're not going to figure it out anyways.
Speaker A:It's for me to talk it out and say, okay, how am I going?
Speaker A:What do you think?
Speaker A:If I do it this way.
Speaker B:But I won't offer you any, any value.
Speaker A:No, but you just allow me, you allow me to talk it out.
Speaker B:What I usually say to you, Just pick something.
Speaker B:For God's sakes, just pick something.
Speaker A:I know.
Speaker B:Let's not be here any longer than what this is all about.
Speaker A:Well, I think, I think the good news is that, you know, we've been.
Speaker A:This is 37 years, right?
Speaker A:I think so.
Speaker A:95.
Speaker B:95.
Speaker A: No, no, it were: Speaker A:20.
Speaker B:20.
Speaker B:25.
Speaker B: And we were married in: Speaker B:37.
Speaker A:Yeah, thanks for doing the math.
Speaker B:37 years.
Speaker A:I mean, obviously there were things that bugged us more in our younger years that we've just now did.
Speaker A:We have, we adapted.
Speaker B:I don't remember what bugged us when we were first married.
Speaker A:That's the point.
Speaker B:I don't.
Speaker A:No, but that's the point.
Speaker A:I know there were, I know there were things or things we expected from the other person that maybe didn't.
Speaker B:Expectations might have been, yes and then.
Speaker A:And then, especially when they didn't fulfill those expectations, you might have had a let down moment or maybe, no, maybe, no.
Speaker A:But maybe it ended up in an argument or something because you didn't, you didn't fulfill those expectations, whether that's cleaning the house or whether it's doing something else.
Speaker A:But the, the, what I'm trying to say is the good news is, is that I don't remember very many of those type of things.
Speaker A:And I don't think there's too many things that really, you know, annoy me about you.
Speaker B:Yeah, I don't think that there's much there.
Speaker B:I think we work through what we needed to work through when we were first married.
Speaker B:We figured out what your strengths were.
Speaker B:What my strengths were with our weaknesses are we figured out what that is.
Speaker B:And, and as we figured that out, that's how the other guy picks up the slab.
Speaker A:So, so we learned, we learned to work off of that.
Speaker B:Work off of that.
Speaker B:So yeah, you don't cook fast.
Speaker B:You're not efficient at cooking.
Speaker B:Not that you don't cook well, you're not efficient at it.
Speaker B:And, and I learned to say, okay, so I am more efficient at it.
Speaker B:So I will do it more often, you know, but your idea.
Speaker B:If you don't want to cook, where do you usually say, where do you want to go?
Speaker A:I mean, sometimes you're efficient and fast, but it shouldn't always be at high heat.
Speaker A:It should be medium to low at times.
Speaker A:Just let it simmer.
Speaker B:Let's get it done.
Speaker B:Let's get it done.
Speaker B:It's not a matter of.
Speaker B:And I think the older I've gotten, the more.
Speaker B:It's more like, you know, you have to eat because you need to sustain yourself.
Speaker B:But the reality, too is sometimes it takes.
Speaker B:It's like too much effort sometimes to.
Speaker A:Do, but you've been effort or you're just not hungry.
Speaker B:Sometimes it's effort.
Speaker B:But.
Speaker B:But you've been.
Speaker B:You've been better because I have come up to you and said, listen, I can just have a scrambled egg.
Speaker B:Do you want an egg?
Speaker B:Because your meals are elaborate, no different than how you make your sandwich.
Speaker B:The components to the sandwich are elaborate.
Speaker A:Whereas I've already talked about my sandwich making.
Speaker A:So how does, how do my meals relate to that, then?
Speaker B:Well, because you, you, you need.
Speaker B:You need extensive stuff where I'm like.
Speaker A:You mean I want vegetables.
Speaker A:I'd like some vegetables with my protein, damn it.
Speaker B:You want vegetables besides the starch?
Speaker B:Besides the starch, yeah.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker B:That just.
Speaker B:That just says, I want how we were raised.
Speaker A:I want more of a balance plate.
Speaker B:Yeah, I'm just looking at.
Speaker B:Just throw something in my mouth and usually it's the fastest thing.
Speaker B:Not.
Speaker B:Not necessarily the best thing for you.
Speaker A:That's not always the case.
Speaker A:Maybe lunchtime or something.
Speaker A:But I mean it.
Speaker A:At dinner time, we do try to put some effort into it.
Speaker A:Depends on the time of the week.
Speaker B:I put the effort into it.
Speaker B:Because that's your requirement.
Speaker B:Not necessarily.
Speaker A:Oh, so if, so if it wasn't.
Speaker B:If you weren't around, you would open.
Speaker A:Up a can of tuna and rice?
Speaker B:Yes, I would.
Speaker A:So don't you, don't you enjoy having a nice dinner, though, too?
Speaker A:And this is something new.
Speaker B:It could.
Speaker A:It could go discovering this.
Speaker B:It could go either way.
Speaker B:It could go either way.
Speaker A:Like, I mean, the, the salad and crab cake we had was good.
Speaker A:And that was fairly simple.
Speaker B:Yeah, it was simple.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:It, that was simplistic.
Speaker B:And it, it did.
Speaker B:It did have a lot of good, good things in it.
Speaker B:But if I was by myself, would it have included the, the beets and everything else?
Speaker B:Probably not.
Speaker B:It probably just would have been a.
Speaker A:Crab cake on lettuce, I don't think.
Speaker A:No, not anymore.
Speaker A:Might have maybe before I don't think you could just.
Speaker A:I don't think you could have a salad with just lettuce.
Speaker B:It all depends on the.
Speaker B:On what's going on in that day.
Speaker B:And the time, really.
Speaker B:It's the time.
Speaker B:When you think about it, we're doing so many things that.
Speaker B:Stopping what we're doing to cook.
Speaker B:I mean, it's like getting up in the morning.
Speaker B:What do we do?
Speaker B:If we can have a shake in the morning, we will.
Speaker A:Unless you prepare it the night before.
Speaker A:During the wintertime, we were doing that with oatmeal.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:We would prepare it the night before, but it was a matter of.
Speaker B:As a.
Speaker B:As you're cooking dinner, you added that extra component in there.
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And doing a lot of prep work does make it somewhat easier as you go through the week if you prep in advance.
Speaker B:But it takes time.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:So that means on Sunday, you're taking a couple hours to prepare, you know, for the rest of the week.
Speaker B:I think it's helpful, but it's just time.
Speaker A:All right.
Speaker B:Yay.
Speaker A:So I think that wraps this episode up for now.
Speaker B:What was the title of the episode?
Speaker B:Pet Peeves.
Speaker A:Well, things.
Speaker A:I don't know.
Speaker A:We'll.
Speaker A:We'll figure that out as we get into it, as we.
Speaker A:As we post it.
Speaker A:I'll come up with the title for it as we go along.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker A:Let's just.
Speaker A:Just after those things about stuff that bug us and what we do with it when it does.
Speaker B:But I felt as though we were really on.
Speaker B:On this is an uneventful thing because we don't have a lot of things that we try to allow to annoy us, either between you and me or being outside somewhere we tend to be.
Speaker B:You know what?
Speaker B:I bet you other people might say different, though.
Speaker A:Yeah, I'd like to.
Speaker A:That.
Speaker A:I'm sure there's other people have.
Speaker A:There's things that bug them maybe more than they bug us.
Speaker A:And maybe.
Speaker A:Maybe we've just come adapted to some of the things.
Speaker B:Maybe our kids would have a different idea.
Speaker A:I'm sure we bug them.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker A:Me asking all the questions and waiting for some kind of response from them once in a while.
Speaker B:Nobody comes in.
Speaker A:No.
Speaker B:Nobody says anything.
Speaker A:All right, well, we should probably edit.
Speaker B:This, but we won't.
Speaker A:See you next time.
Speaker B:Bye.
Speaker A:Bye, guys.
